How To Be More Confident In Pursuing Your Dreams And During Challenging Performance Times

If there is ONE thing that I know will help you achieve your goals and dreams in life is to BE and FEEL CONFIDENT every day.

How can you be more confident during PERFORMANCE TIMES, when you need to shoot the video, or speak in front of thousands of people on a LIVE webinar, or maybe in front of thousands of people on stage, or how about NETWORKING situations when you are going to meet a lot of cool and awesome people, or talking with your leads and prospects on the PHONE, or INFLUENCING and LEADING your team, how can you exude more confidence?

I can tell you if you can be more confident in YOURSELF, how you feel about yourself, more confident in your SKILLS, and more confident in SOCIAL INTERACTIONS, you are going to WIN. I want you to WIN your FREEDOM and build a 6-figure business online like I won mine, that’s my focus. 

I recently completed a course by Brendon Burchard – “The Confidence Course”, I’m a big fan of him and I devour all the courses he puts out there, and in it he goes in to way more detail about confidence, but let me share with you a couple of tips that I learned from this course.

Confidence is a belief and a feeling that things will turn out well…because you are willing, worthy and capable. – Brendon Burchard 

You are willing to BE THERE, and have this experience. You feel that you are worthy because you’ve struggled long enough, you have the right to be there sitting next to top producers and millionaires, you deserve it. And you feel that you are capable, you can FIGURE THINGS OUT. 

If there is one crucial belief to develop to build your confidence is the belief that you are going to figure things out. 

I’m going to be flying soon to Miami in the beginning of February to mastermind with millionaires and top producers in my company, and you know what I feel I belong there. I’ve worked my butt for it. 

Confidence is knowing that you can cope, act as you intend and succeed in a give situation.

Confidence is trusting that you will reliably show up as your best self and do a good job.  

Do you trust yourself that will perform and do a great job? 

Do you trust that you are going to be AUTHENTIC and true to yourself? Are you congruent to your values? 

Are you taking the actions that you need to take to pursue your dreams and achieve your goals? 

Are you adapting well to changing or challenging circumstances? Are you resilient? Can you adapt your strategy? 

Ask those questions of yourself and you will see if you have the confidence or not. 

It’s important that you will be going after things that YOU truly care for.  Doing not just busy work, but your life’s work. 
 
Here are a couple of things that will help you: 

1. Learn and Increase Competence 

If you are not competent in your skills and abilities then you will not feel much confidence. 
 
Are you reading the books, are you interviewing and studying from other successful people? Are you buying the courses?
 
Are you investing in yourself? 
 
I’m constantly buying new courses and new training and taking the time to learn new skills and improve my competency. 
 
I’m studying from the best in the world at what they are doing, online marketing, webinars, video marketing, blogging, prospecting, you name it I study it all continuously and pouring tens of thousands of dollars every year to sharpen my skills. 

2. Practice 

Are you practicing the areas that you feel not that confident in and even afraid of? Are you practicing over and over until you become very confident and competent at it? 
 
Confidence comes from practice. For example VIDEOS. The first time I shot a video I was TERRIFIED. I was so afraid to speak I couldn’t talk more then 5 seconds. I had to re-shoot the video so many times because I mumbled and thought it was no good. 
 
Well I put myself in a position to shoot a video almost every single day, and now after 500 or so videos I feel that I’m much more confident in front of the camera. It doesn’t mean that I’m perfect, but I just feel I can be myself and fully express myself on camera. 
 
Practice what you’ll actually be doing in the performance situation, if it’s a webinar presentation, practice it full out with full intensity and out loud. 

3. Your State 

It’s so important that you are going to be in the right emotional state. 
 
It begins in how you treat yourself every day. Are you taking care of yourself? Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating healthy? Are you drinking lots of water? Are you breathing deeply? 
 
One of the most important practices you can put in place to feel more confident is to take control of your morning! What do you do when you wake up? 
 
Get yourself into a strong physical and emotional state, drink lots of water, exercise, prepare for the day.  
 
Visualize how you are going to achieve your goals and dreams. Visualize PERFORMING as your best self. Affirm your success and what you want to be true for you. it can be simple things: 
 
“I can figure this out. I’m going to do well here. I understand I can add value here. This is going to be fun. I’m going to like this. I’m comfortable here.  I can handle it. I’m going to enjoy it. I’ve waited my whole life for this” 
 
Remember that confidence is fleeting emotion, you can GENERATE it at any time! 

4. Focus Externally On Serving 

When you are nervous and thinking about how you are going to look and sound, you are being all in yourself, self judgement, past doubts and fears, and you are being selfish. 
 
Instead focus on the people that you are going to be serving! Focus externally on the environment you are in. Take in what you see and pay very close attention to the room! the food that is there, the people, the environment. Be really present to what’s going on.  
 
Think how you can add value. What can you learn here. Be fascinated about people. 
 
When your mindset is all about what can I give, how can I have fun and bring the joy, what can I learn, how can I contribute, then you will be more confident and not all wrapped up in your insecurities. 

More Awesome Training For You:

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Vitaliy Dubinin

Vitaliy Dubinin is inspiring and empowering thousands of regular people to leverage the Internet to build a 6-figure income and win their FREEDOM in life. Vitaliy is an entrepreneur, mentor, father and speaker living in Israel with 2 kids. He is traveling 5-7 times a year all over the world and his vision is to FREE 1,000 people per year to live life on their terms. In his free time Vitaliy loves to play table tennis, chess and have with his family.

6 Comments

  • Brian and Felicia White

    December 28, 2015

    Love the 4 steps in becoming more confident Vitaliy! Yes, we must be willing to invest in ourselves and our education in order to grow into the leaders we’re meant to be. Also, appreciate what you said about practice…Practice makes progress and that’s key! Thank you for leading the way! Miami is the place to be especially in February. Haha! You definitely deserve it. Love Brendon too so thanks for sharing this. 🙂

  • Julie Syl Kalungi

    December 28, 2015

    Yes Its absolutely essential to trust in Yourself.

    We all have that INNER MAN who is so rooting for us. But the also perform best when we allow our thoughts to being alignment with our Divine purpose. Self confidence allows that inner spirit to shine and when that happens our physical being shines like never before.
    One thing I am doing more of 2016 is Resting more 🙂

    Practicing our craft, practice being confident, skill up if need be and You Vitaliy do that on a great scale. Your energy shines through. Thanks for sharing!

  • Kenny Santos

    December 28, 2015

    Great video. Confidence doesn’t only make your activities more successful. It makes them more fun too!

  • Ron Deering

    December 28, 2015

    Great post Vitaliy…. powerful points… thanks for sharing this with everyone…

  • Jelena Ostrovska

    December 27, 2015

    I LOVE this post Vitaliy! When you invest in yourself to master the skills that you know you have to master, and then you practice – that’s when you become more confident in certain areas!!

    Thanks for sharing that!!

  • Okolie Anthony

    December 27, 2015

    If one doesn’t have confident in oneself, how can he ever be able to overcome his challenges? I loved every line I read in this blog post.